Friday, November 30, 2012

Kempen Membaca Surah Al-Kahf (The Cave)

One of the good habits that I managed to adopt, cultivate and indulge from Ramadhan this year is the weekly recitation of Surah Al-Kahf (Quran 18: 1-110). Alhamdulillah. *pats self on the back*

I tend to get caught up with chores and work and kids during the day on Fridays, so I try to finish the entire surah on Thursday nights before going to bed. If I don't force myself to do this, I'd feel uneasy, restless and guilty (which is good!!). So, I do what I can to complete reading the entire surah, and then I can go to sleep smiling. :)

I came across a book that explains and elaborates the meanings of each verse in Surah Al-Kahf during one of my unplanned visits to a book fair earlier this year. It is the 1st edition & 1st printing, published by Abul Qasim Publications and produced in collaboration with Saheeh International.

The book gives a background of the surah, and then proceeds with explanations and elaborations of each verse from 1-110. Examples and references to other surahs in the Quran and authentic hadiths are also included. Where necessary and applicable, also narrations by Muslim, Al-Bukhari, Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, Al-Bayhaqi and Ibn Hibban.




Taken from the back cover of the book:
The Prophet's recommendations to memorize and recite the surah weekly is an indication of its importance. It contains reminders of the end of the world and has been described by scholars as a source of guiding principles, instructive ethics and a foundation of sound belief.
You can preview sample pages here.


I have just started reading this book and currently I am at verses 23-24, where our beloved Prophet had forgotten to include the phrase "In Shaa Allah" (If Allah wills) when he responded to the Quraisy, informing them that he would provide answers to their questions on the following day. The story behind this was the Quraisy had given three questions to Muhammad S.A.W and demanded that he answered them to confirm his claim of prophethood. Muhammad S.A.W expected Allah S.W.T to provide him with the answers and waited for a revelation to be sent to him but none came until about two weeks later. These two verses serve as a reminder that anything and everything beyond the present is an uncertainty, and nothing can happen unless Our Creator wills it. Coincidently, di MukaBuku recently sedang heboh tentang isu penggunaan InsyaAllah or Insya-Allah as opposed to In Shaa Allah. Wallahu'alam.

Anyways...

I am trying to get myself familiarized with this surah and its meanings. And I hope to one day be able to memorize at least the first and last ten verses in the surah, In Shaa Allah. Ini adalah salah satu azam saya. May Allah make it easy for me.





Copied this image from PB's entry in tumblr sometime ago (Thank you, PB! :) *hugs*.

I think this is a good summary of the surah. Macam study notes gitu. Simplifies the process of remembering the gist of the surah. I like. :)




Jadi kawan-kawan, tunggu apa lagi? Jom baca Surah Al-Kahf today! :)

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Road Signs on the Journey to Jannah

Helping to spread-the-word for some friends of mine...

It's still not too late to register your teens/pre-teens for this workshop (although you won't get the Early Bird promo price anymore, I guess).


Monday, November 19, 2012

Marrying The Right Person

I found this article saved in the Drafts folder. Why was it there in the first place? Err... makcik tak hingatlah. :P



During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,"How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated his/her call, wanted his/her touch, and liked his/her idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. if you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.





Bila difikir-fikirkan, it kinda makes sense, doesn't it? *ponders*

I do believe that jodoh telah ditentukan oleh Allah SWT, but that does not mean we do not have to usaha to make the marriage work, especially when you have kids and tend to get overwhelmed with life's never-ending demands and challenges. Soooo exhausting, I tell you!! But I try to constantly remind myself of the sweet rewards that'll come in the end, In Shaa Allah. The Road to Jannah is not a smooth one, y'all.

There's no such thing as a dugaan-free marriage. I learned this along the way. Communication is the key. And as clic as it may sound, so is perseverance. But most important of all, never forget to make lots and lots of du'a.




Happy 13th Anniversary, famyBoy!! *muahhsss*

May Allah SWT bestow upon us guidance (and lots of patience!) to carry out our duties as husband & wife and Ibu & Ayah, in ways that will please Him. May He shower our family with health, wealth and happiness and may we, as a family, always always always live our lives in taqwa.


Saturday, November 10, 2012

This morning, after breakfast...

The kids woke up early this morning, voluntarily lagi. No need for me to bebel continuously to ask them to go mandi before having breakfast (which consisted of pancakes, sausages, baked beans and Milo).

After breakfast, they all decided to camp in Abang's room.


Melepaskan gian masing-masing


The school holidays have begun. *pulls hair*


Friday, November 09, 2012

(My) 2-Year-Old: Taming Fears

Came across this article from the email sent by BabyCenter.com to me earlier this week:

Your 2-Year-Old Now 
A lively imagination often gives temporary birth to monsters, dragons, ghosts, and other mysterious creatures of the dark. Fear of the dark is common as a child's mind becomes capable of inventing its own stories. (You can actually think of night fears — the result of an overactive imagination — as a sophisticated cognitive development.) 
To help calm your child: 
• Take the fear seriously. Never belittle it or make fun of your child's fantasy. 
• Skip the logic. A patient explanation that there's no way a monster could live in the closet but only at night won't wash. 
• Look at the room from your child's viewpoint. Maybe there's a weird shadow that really does look like a spiderweb. 
• Try some light. The reassuring glow of a nightlight or a light in the hallway has vanquished many a scary creature. 
• Give a little extra TLC. Often fears reflect some other anxiety in your child's life; she might just want some hugs and snuggles. A happy and secure bedtime routine before your child is tucked in is important, too.



We have not really addressed the concept of fear in Le Petit Pwince Nuaym's life.

As a result, he is pretty much fearless. *rolleyes*

When he was smaller (I think about a year ago, he was still learning to walk at that time, tengah taaa-tih taaa-tih lagi), he was quite taken aback by his own shadow. I remember seeing him being alarmed and on the verge of crying because the black thingy refused to leave his side and kept following him wherever he went. Ok, ok, so I was guilty for not comforting him right away, but it was too cute and funny to watch. Imagine a baby (dengan bont*t besar sebab pakai diapers) waddling around trying to run away from his own shadow. Adorably amusing, y'all!

But then Kakak and Abang found out about the incident and started to tease Adik by turning off the big light and turning on the little light and trying to scare him by having shadows chase him here and there. Grrrr... those big bullies!

I had to put a stop to the afraid-of-my-shadow phase. Nuaym eventually learnt that he had nothing to fear. Shadow? What shadow? Adik is not afraid of shadows!!

And the fun ended for Kakak and Abang. Padan muka.

Anyways...

He is not afraid of the dark. For him, dark = Nuaym kena tidur. Time to ZZZZZZ. Ibu also ZZZZZZZ.

Alhamdulillah, so far we have managed to avoid scaring him unnecessarily with ghosts and ghoulies or monsters. He is not afraid of momok(s) (because he doesn't know what a momok is) nor is he afraid of hantu(s). He stood and stared at the TV screen when TeeVee3 showed Seram the other day and watched it like it was a normal drama. No reaction or emotion whatsoever. At times, he just couldn't care less and played with his toy cars or trains or Transformers instead, while lying down and sucking his left thumb. Screaming humans or wailing hantu(s) are just background noise for him.

Last I checked, he is not afraid of any ulat(s), i.e. creepy-crawlies yang make Ibu geli-geleman. In fact, when he sees insects like ants or small roaches or other small bugs, he'd make it his mission to stomp, squash or swat them to death.

The other day, he witnessed me screaming like a little girl when a huge and slimy house lizard fell, plonked onto my desk, WHILE I WAS SITTING THERE. Ohmygod, eeeewwwwww-ness!!!!

But instead of screaming with me, he giggled. He was apparently entertained by Ibu's screaming. Soooo entertained that after that unfortunate incident, he would sometimes, out of the blue, yell out, "Cicak! Ibu, cicak!", pointing to an invisible cicak that sits on the wall above my desk. Very funny, Nuaym. Verrrrryyy the funny.

And then one day, I discovered his 'weakness'.
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Le Petit Pwince is afraid of flies. Yes, L-A-L-A-T. Especially those that hover above your head, buzzing and flying around you. Very annoying ones.


He is terrified of them


So, nowadays,...

- When he misbehaves: "Haaa, siapa naughty, nanti lalat datang."

- When he refuses to finish the last spoonful: "Cepat, cepat! Makan ni. Nanti lalat amik."

- When he tries to run and hide: "Eiiii, Adik, kat situ ada lalat!!"

- When he insists on having the front door open although we want it closed: "Tutup pintu tu, nanti lalat masuk baru tau."

:) :) :) :) :)


We know your secret, Adik! Jangan marrrraaahh! :P


Ohh... Adik takut lalat rupanya... hee hee hee


I have a plan to counter-scare him with an invisible lalat the next time he tries to scare me with the invisible cicak. *evil grin*


Tuesday, November 06, 2012

Sempat Ke?



Sometime ago, I happened to listen to some callers on Radi0 S1nar who called in to share stories/memories of their mothers (tak kira yang masih hidup atau yang sudah kembali ke Rahmatullah). Most of them remember their mothers as very special individuals. Their stories made me smile since I could easily relate to some them, being a mom and a daughter myself.

But some of the stories brought tears to my eyes, not only because they were sad stories, but more of how they made me think.

And think.

And think even harder.

I have to admit, listening to those callers made me termenung jauh.

What do MY kids think of me?

A very loving, supportive, caring and understanding Ibu? I wish, I wish, I wish...

Or Ibu yang super-mean yakni garang macam singa? As in I-wish-I-had-a-different-Ibu? *shudder*

How do they see me as their Ibu? How would they describe ME? Nak suruh depa buat karangan ke? Tapi saya tak berani nak baca nanti.

Would they recall their childhood as memorable and cherishable and special because they had me as their mother?

Would they have fond growing up stories to share with their own kids in future?

What would they remember about me when they tell their kids stories about their errr... Nenek Ibu Tok?

At this point in time, mengenangkan insiden menjerit-pekik-membebel-tanpa-henti earlier this morning, I am afraid to find out their answers. Afraid to even imagine.

Gosh... I have SOOOOOOOO many areas that I need to improve on. :(

But, How? What? When?

I must not waste the (limited) time and opportunity that has been given to me.

Maal Hijrah is just around the corner. I should include this as one of my new year's resolutions.

May Allah SWT ease my affairs and guide me throughout this journey.

 

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