Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Abang is Six

Aidiin turned 6 on August 14th this year. No longer the baby in the family, he now prefers to be addressed as Abang, whenever possible and appropriate.



Before 2010 comes to an end and before I totally forget to blog about it (like his birthday last year *blush*), let me jot down my thoughts and observations regarding the birthday boy.

I would say his biggest achievement this year would be his willingness to try and fast during the recent Ramadhan. His first attempt to fast full day and he managed to complete the entire month. Syukur syukur to Allah... His perseverance and accomplishment definitely exceeded my expectations. Next year's Ramadhan's goal, insyaAllah, would be to follow Ayah to the masjid for terawih prayers.

He has started performing his prayers daily; voluntarily, Alhamdulillah. Tapi still kena regularly remind and monitor-lah. Sebab sometimes Ibu agak musykil cemana solat 4 rakaat boleh di-complete-kan dengan begitu cepat sekali... :P

He simply adores his little brother, Le Petit Pwince Nuaym, and the feelings are mutual. Nuaym would shrieeeek in delight at the sight of his Abang. And Abang literally makes Adik LOL. They also share a common interest as you can see. Talk about bonding...



Aidiin's relationship with his elder sister is somewhat love-hate-love. Bila time gaduh, memang masing-masing takmo mengalah. Grrrr. But bila time (sangat) baik, I would be in disbelief at the level of 'kamceng'-ness between the two. It makes my blood go upstairs when the argue and fight, but at the same time it worries me when they don't. :P Apasal senyap je??? Apa agaknya projek budak dua orang tu??? Fenin fenin.



I think he has a tough job being the middle child. Not only does he need to be a good and obedient Adik to his sister but he also needs to be an exemplary and great Abang to his little brother.

This year, he was entrusted with several leader positions at his school. He was elected Captain for Team IQ (aka Yellow team) during his school's Sports Day last October. He was also chosen to lead/recite the Doa Pembuka Majlis, to which his schoolmates "Ameen"-ed to dengan penuh bersemangat. :)

We had the usual birthday do at his school, but we did the party thingy five days earlier due to his birthday falling in the month of Ramadhan this year. Even though it was an in-advanced celebration, I noticed that it was still very the meriah and kecoh all the same.

I should tell you this (ehem! ehem!)... For this year's party, his customized favors were DIY by moi. Not too bad, eh?? ;)



Tomorrow will be his last day at his current school. Bye Bye Sals@biil@ and Hello SK & KAFA. In fact, his Year 1 orientation at the SK will be held on this coming Friday. Dah nak jadi murid Tahun 1 dah anak teruna ku ini. *sigh*

Some other (random) captured moments...



Happy 6th Birthday to you, Abang. May you grow up to be a righteous and successful Muslim, both in this world and in the next. May Allah guide me and grant me patience to nurture and raise you and your siblings in the way that is most pleasing to Him. Ibu, Ayah, Kakak & Adik love you lots and lots.


Oh and one more thing, Selamat Menempuh Alam Persekolahan 'Big Boy' di SK and KAFA!! May Allah make it an easy transition for him (and for me!!) Gosh... I am nervous banget just thinking about it.

p/s: Notice the 'theme' for last year's and this year's entry? Yup, he has DEFINITELY outgrown his Th0mas the Tank Engine era. :)

Relevant reads:
- 5th birthday, 4th birthday, 3rd birthday, 2nd birthday, 1st birthday


Monday, December 06, 2010

Doa Awal Tahun

Barangsiapa yang membaca doa awal tahun ini, insya Allah dirinya akan terpelihara daripada gangguan dan godaan syaitan di sepanjang tahun tersebut.

Doa Awal Tahun




Maksudnya:

Allah SWT berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad SAW, ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabat baginda dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka. Wahai Tuhan, Engkaulah yang kekal abadi, yang qadim. yang awal dan ke atas kelebihanMu yang besar dan kemurahanMu yang melimpah dan ini adalah tahun baru yang telah muncul di hadapan kami. Kami memohon pemeliharaan dariMu di sepanjang tahun ini dari syaitan dan pembantu-pembantunya dan tentera-tenteranya dan juga pertolongan terhadap diri yang diperintahkan melakukan kejahatan dan usaha yang mendekatkanku kepadaMu Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Agung dan Maha Mulia. Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha pengasih dari mereka yang mengasihi dan Allah berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad. Nabi yang ummi dan ke atas ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabatnya dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka.

Doa Akhir Tahun

Barangsiapa yang membaca doa akhir tahun ini, maka syaitan akan berkata: "Hampalah kami di sepanjang tahun ini".

Doa Akhir Tahun




Maksudnya:

Allah SWT berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad SAW, ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabat baginda dan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka. Wahai Tuhan, apa yang telah aku lakukan dalam tahun ini daripada perkara-perkara yang Engkau tegah daripada aku melakukannya dan aku belum bertaubat daripadanya. Sedangkan Engkau tidak redha dan tidak melupakannya. Dan aku telah melakukannya di dalam keadaan di mana Engkau berupaya untuk menghukumku, tetapi Engkau mengilhamkanku dengan taubat selepas keberanianku melakukan dosa-dosa itu semuanya. Sesungguhnya aku memohon keampunanMu, maka ampunilah aku. Dan tidaklah aku melakukan yang demikian daripada apa yang Engkau redhainya dan Engkau menjanjikanku dengan pahala atas yang sedemikian itu. Maka aku memohon kepadaMu. Wahai Tuhan! Wahai yang Maha Pemurah! Wahai Yang Maha Agung dan wahai Yang Maha Mulia agar Engkau menerima taubat itu dariku dan janganlah Engkau menghampakan harapanku kepadaMu Wahai Yang Maha Pemurah. Dan Allah berselawat ke atas penghulu kami Muhammad, ke atas ahli keluarga dan sahabat-sahabatnya dan mengurniakan kesejahteraan ke atas mereka.

Friday, December 03, 2010

Peek-A-Boo

Yoooohoooooo... Are you (still) there???

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Aidiin Turns 6

Actual birthday entry can be found HERE.


Thursday, August 12, 2010

First Time

This year's Ramadhan is Aidiin's first attempt at fasting, officially that is.

Last year he did puasa yang-yok by having breakfast at home before going to school (where he'd skip lunch and tea time), tapi masa nak balik cikgu bagi biskut to eat in the car sebab dia kata dia terlalu lapar. :P

Anyways, this year he is determined to try and fast like Ayah, Ibu and Kakak.

Before going to bed the night before yesterday, after reciting the niyat to puasa, he reminded me that he wanted to be woken up at 5am for sahur. Ibu jangan lupa kejut Aidiin ok? Ok Ok Ok Ibu tak lupa. Maka Ibu pun dengan segera meng-set-kan alarm clocks yang ada, campur dengan alarm handphone lagi sebab takut tak terjaga nak kejut semua orang. Pressure pressure. Malam tu tidur pun tak nyenyak, asyik terbangun to check if alarm dah go off or not. First night ler katakan...

So we had our first sahur together yesterday, me, famyBoy, Sofea and Aidiin. The kids had white rice with telur goreng, while famyBoy and I shared leftover nasi beriani gam (ayam). I had my compulsory mug of Nescafe and some dates. I was sorta rushing to do this and that whilst keeping an ear on Nuaym, hoping that he would not wake up asking for his nenen.

So far so good,.. timing cantik, attitude semuanya bagus, semangat berkobar-kobar. We tuned in to Astro Oasis melayan alunan zikir while waiting for azan Subuh. Lepas solat Subuh, I told Aidiin he could take a nap before mandi and going to school if he wanted to and he happily obliged. Letak kepala terus jalan punya case. :)

Alhamdulillah, the first day of sahur went smoothly.

When he returned home from school, I asked him how his day was.

Aidiin puasa lagi tak? Puasa, he replied.

Teacher tak bagi makanan kat sekolah? Tak. *geleng kepala*

Aidiin rasa okay? Aidiin okay... Lemah je bunyinya although determination masih ada.

(20 minutes later)

With the Transformers tumbler in his right hand, he looked at me with pleading eyes and asked if it was okay for him to take a sip of water because he was "thirsty sangat".

Err... tak bolehlah Aidiin. Ada lagi 1 hour je nak bukak puasa. Kan Aidiin nak puasa penuh satu hari. Aidiin kata nak color semua boxes kat paper Ramadhan tu... (Thank you to AlimKids!!)

Aidiin tahan sikiiiiit saja lagi boleh?? Mmmmm.... *angguk kepala*


So, he dengan longlai, placed the tumbler back in its place and sat terpelosok kat sofa (looking like a crumpled piece of paper) and fell asleep, sampai ternganga lagi. Rasa sebak Ibu tengok. When I woke him up before azan, he could barely stand up. Masa berbuka pun macam tak lalu nak makan. He told me he only wanted to drink.

I helped feed him the first few suaps because he was too tired to lift his hand. Kesian pun ada, nak senyum pun ada. Slowly and steadily, dia telan nasi putih with ayam masak merah that I fed him. Soon after, his energy returned and he was his usual cheeky self, mulut dah start pot-pet-pot-pet like before. :P

But hey hey hey, he did it! He had fasted a full day! Well done, Abang!! *hugs* Ibu is proud of you.

And what about today (and the days that follow)? Kita tunggu dan lihatlah. :) May Allah make it easy for him.

Friday, July 09, 2010

(Waayyy Belated) 5th Birthday Entry

The other day, I overheard Aidiin telling his sister that it's already the month of July and pretty soon August 14th will arrive and he'll officially be six years old. He was sharing with her his ideas on possible designs for his birthday cake.

OMG OMG OMG... I forgot (or rather tak make time) to blog about Aidiin's 5th birthday, LAST YEAR!! *hangs head in shame*

Ah well, just consider this a waayyy belated birthday entry for the birthday boy then...

[pause]

But but but... Alamak! How am I supposed to backdate my thoughts and observations?? *garu kepala*

Errr... kata orang, pictures speak a thousand words kan? Mujurlah ada amik beberapa gambar masa birthday party dia kat sekolah last year. So, let me share with you some of those captured moments. ;)



The sun was shining on Aidiin's 5th birthday



His birthday cake and favors... Bak kata Optimus Prime, "Autobots, transform and roll out!" :)
Note: Cake from ResipiRahsia and party favors (i.e. sugar cookies) from Pn Gart d' Blue



The birthday boy of course...



Aidiin distributing the Transformers cookies to his friends



Kanak-kanak girang



As you can see, he has outgrown his 'Thomas & Friends' era and has ventured into transforming robots instead. How/When/Why did he get himself 'terjebak' into this deserves an entry of its own. Kalau tak pun I shall include it in his upcoming (6th) birthday entry.

Hmm... but a birthday entry wouldn't be complete without some updates on milestones or accomplishments so I'll try to recall how he has progressed and changed (or not!! :P) between the years 2008 and 2009. This is not an easy task but I will try my very best.

*ponders*

1. Homework/Schoolwork is (still) a chore for him. His shoulder would 'drop' when I ask him about homework or assign him some exercises from the workbooks we have at home. Nak marah pun ada, nak tergelak pun ada.
2. He is (still) Ibu's badut cum entertainer. He says the most unexpected things at the most unexpected yet appropriate times. :) Take this as an example.
3. He has improved tremendously in terms of independent reading, both in BM and English. Alhamdulillah. Ibu is very proud of you, darling! I guess I was being overly-worried before (like all mothers?? heh).
4. He's got very nice handwriting, much to my surprise. Tulisan Rumi AND Jawi, both very neat!! And his numbers are not that bad too. :) Remember the time when he attempted to write his own name? Well, let's just say he has come a loooonnngg way since then.
5. From my observation, he hasn't grown much in size. But his pants have mostly become senteng, so he must've grown taller since the previous year.
6. His favorite food is nasi. With ayam masak merah or sambal or kari of sort. Kicap kalau nak bubuh, kena sikiiiit saja.
7. He still drinks milk from the bottle (shhhhhh!!! don't tell him I told you! hee hee hee). He usually gets his daily doses of susu botol early morning before mandi and at night before bed.

Lastly, a birthday wish for the birthday boy... HAPPY 5th BIRTHDAY AIDIIN!! Semoga membesar menjadi anak yang soleh dan beroleh kejayaan dan kebahagiaan dunia dan akhirat.





Edited to add:
Hmmm... since there are 7 milestones recorded *points up*, I wonder if I could also consider this entry as my waayyy belated response to ipohmom's "7 Things" tag... *winks kat maryam* Boleh ya?? hee hee hee.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Unlike His Kakak and Abang

It's confirmed... Le Petit Pwince Nuaym is a thumb sucker.





psst psst to Che Na... Any advice??

Saturday, May 15, 2010

She's Nine

Sofea turned 9 years old two days ago. Happy Birthday, Kakak!!! :D *hugs n kisses*


Cuppies from here (thanx Titi! :D) for her classmates


On the morning of her birthday, she told me she wanted her own faceb00k account.

"Whatever for??" I asked. Amused bercampur surprised.

"Mmm... saja-sajalah. Ramai kawan-kawan Kakak yang dah ada."

Sheesh... talk about peer pressure. She even showed me a list of names untuk di-'Add as Friend' nanti. Amboi amboi.

During breakfast that same morning, I sorta gave her a mini lecture about how big she has grown, now that she's NINE. How she's got different roles to play. How important it is to manage her time well, not to dilly-dally, especially masa mandi and makan. How she should take care of herself, behave well and be a good example to her brothers. I wonder if she managed to 'swallow' everything I said at that time like she was swallowing her roti sapu with nutella.

Talking about her different roles, let's see how she is faring in them so far.


As a Student

Because I haven't been actively updating my blog, I have failed to mention that she has been selected to become a school prefect this year. Maklumlah the Tahun 3 kids are the most senior students in the afternoon session. I think almost 3/4 of her classmates were selected as prefects, so during assembly, yakni when the prefects go on duty, her class punya line-up nampak kontot saja. :)

She is doing very well academically, in both schools. Alhamdulillah. Each time tibanya musim exams, I would be the one to panic, feel feverish lenguh lemah seluruh badan segala, whereas she'd be all rilekkkk sajer. Grrrr. This year, I haven't been able to breathe down her neck as often as the previous two years because I'm mostly busy with the baby. Tapi I would still 'remote control' and bebel from the next room. :P


As a Kakak (Big Sister)

Sofea is very gentle and great with the baby. I pun amazed sebenarnya. Kira boleh haraplah untuk jaga and entertain adik, although I still forbid her from carrying Nuaym without an adult nearby. She never fails to amuse her little brother and on several occasions I'd catch him smiling and grinning at her. Apakah agaknya yang kelakar sangat tu?




With Aidiin, she finds her partner in crime, her confidante. Ada saja projek dua beradik ni when they are together. Of course, ada masanya baik dan mesra sesangat, ada masa argue sampai ada sorang end up in tears. Love-hate relationship-lah, bak kata orang.

Both of them signed up for weekly taekwondo lessons sometime in March. They have just gone through their first grading test last month and both have passed (*phew!* legaaaaaa Ibu! :)) and have been awarded their upgrade certificates and yellow belts. This picture was taken by famyBoy on the test day morning. I didn't get to witness the actual event as I was at home with Nuaym.



Berbekalkan semangat Malaysia Boleh


I am thankful that all my kids get along fine and enjoy each other's company. No sibling rivalry, jealousy, resentment dan seumpamanya, not even with the baby. Alhamdulillah. Setakat bickering nak berebut the last piece of keropok, berebut remote TV, si dia 'report' pasal si dia, si dia komplen si dia takmo bagi pinjam eraser, tu perkara biasalah.

I pray that they will continue to love, respect and care for one another sampai bila-bila, lagi-lagi when famyBoy and I are no longer around.


As a Daughter

She's still the loving, manja-manja daughter that she used to be. Still Ayah's Now-Not-So-Little Girl by character. :)

She made me a card as a Mothers' Day gift recently. It took her several days to finish, what with having to study for exams and homework and whatnot. In order to make it, she had to ask me permission to borrow my crafting supplies. The best part was watching her uncomfortable self fumbling to provide me with a satisfactory answer (not wanting to lie but not wanting to tell the whole truth) as to why she needed to borrow them. Ibu tanya dia soalan bertubi-tubi. hee hee hee.

famyBoy and I still need to constantly remind and nag nag nag her about her tak-boleh-pakai time management skills. The fact is she is still very the 'la-la' and dreamy. *sigh* But despite these 'imperfections', we love her to bits and we are proud of all that she has achieved.

She will forever be The Pwincess in the family.



As a Muslimah

I try to frequently remind her how her thoughts and actions in her daily activities should be catered towards pleasing Allah. This is a reminder for me too, actually. We all want to become candidates for Paradise, don't we?

She should be thankful for Allah has blessed her with health, rupa yang elok, otak yang cerdas, two parents, two siblings, a house to stay in where she gets her own room, rezeki yang cukup, opportunities to go to school and study and have friends.

Jangan tinggal solat (Alhamdulillah, so far takde issues tapi kadang-kadang kena monitor juga sebab lewat) dan mengaji (she is now under the pre-khatam program in KAFA). May she be istiqamah in her efforts.

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As for me, I am grateful for He has given me the opportunity to mother Sofea and her brothers (as challenging as they are... hmmm). May He bestow upon me guidance and shower me with banyak-banyak patience to raise and nurture them to become successful muslims and muslimah, both in this world and the hereafter.


Bacaan tambahan:
- Her 8th birthday
- Her 7th birthday
- Her 6th birthday
- Her 5th birthday
- Her 4th birthday

Monday, May 03, 2010

Sukanya Dia...


Took these 'happy shots' using my phone (yang cameranya tidak begitu canggih, hence the blurry images) last Friday. This is 3-month-old Nuaym after he's done nursing, and baru lepas di-burp-kan.





Reminds me of that saying... Gendang gendut tali kecapi, kenyang perut suka hati!! :D


Monday, April 12, 2010

Post-Pantang Post


Routines? Schedules? What routine? What schedule?

With a 10-week old baby in the house, I can forget about establishing routines. The least I can do is think ahead (and remind myself to have very low expectations), and try to 'squeeze' my so-called planned activities in between feedings, layan-ing Nuaym and housework.

Mind you, although Nuaym is my 3rd child, this is actually my *first* experience (as a SAHM), in taking care of a baby fulltime. Sofea and Aidiin were sent to kindy as young as 2 months old since I was still working mommy then. I have to re-learn many things coz it's been 6 years+ since I last handled a baby. How to mandikan baby pun makcik dah lupa. *blush*

So, we have 1 baby. Then ADD 2 older (hyper highly-spirited) siblings. MINUS 1 helper (we never had one in the first place). MULTIPLY with daily loads of laundry, ironing, and occasional kemas rumah and masak-memasak. Doesn't that equal to lots of kelam-kabutness, chaos & pening? *sigh*

Not that Nuaym is a difficult and demanding baby. In fact, he is not a difficult baby at all (Alhamdulillah... syukur syukur to Allah for that) but his 'timings' are unpredictable and therefore it is almost impossible for me to plan and stick to a schedule. No doubt famyBoy does help me with the baby and the big kids, and part of the housework, but for a control freak like moi, I can't help feeling helpless and 'Arrrrrghhhh!' when situations get out of hand. Tsk tsk tsk... Istighfar banyak-banyak Ibu...

Anyways... how does my 'typical day' look like nowadays?

When Nuaym naps in the morning, I'd be doing laundry or preparing stuff to cook for lunch or kemas rumah. Ideally, I would want to nap with him (coz bila lagi nak rest kalau tak time dia tido kan?) but by the time I've completed half the chores, he'd be awake and needs feeding or changing. To nurse, comfort and put him to sleep takes some time, and by then either Sofea has returned from KAFA (and needs to eat lunch before going to SK) or the washing machine's done and laundry kena jemur.

When he naps in the afternoon, I'd either be folding laundry, or catch up on ironing or planning/preparing stuff for dinner. Kalau sempat/larat, get online or read and kemas whatever patut, itupun if he sleeps through the hour. Where got time for Ibu to nap-lah??? Sometimes nak go toilet pun kena put 'on hold'.

Basically, at the mo, life revolves around Prince Nuaym. :P





Since I'm already updating, I might as well jot down some of Nuaym's milestones up till now. Let's see... I noticed that he can hold his head up quite steadily when he's lying on his tummy, sometimes he pushes himself up with his arms. Belum boleh rollover lagi, but he can move from his side to his back or from his front to his side. I don't have to be concerned about him falling off high surfaces yet I guess, but whenever I place him on our bed, I'd make sure to have him barricaded with pillows, just to be safe.

He's starting to drool a lot too. The situation gets exceptionally sticky-wet and when he tries to push his fists into his mouth. His cheeks and chin would be berkilat-kilat bagaikan glazed doughnut. :)

He is becoming a good listener but I am not sure if he is able to differentiate the various voices he hears. He would turn his head to see where sounds are coming from. I think his vision is becoming clearer too. He'd give eye contact to me or anyone who 'talks' to him and his eyes would focus and follow a moving object. He'd notice the bright colors, lights and noise emanating from the TV but his attention span is still short and he gets bored easily.

What else ya? Ohhh yes... he stays awake for longer intervals nowadays (hence the unpredictable nap durations). During his waking times, he either needs changing or wants to be carried or cuddled. He loves being talked to and he loves talking back... potential chatterbox this one. Besides cooing and 'ahh'-ing and making gurgling sounds, he'd be grinning and smiling ternganga-nganga. And nothing beats the comelness of the smile of a baby with toothless gums. Gerenti cair babe!! :)



Moments like these make me (temporarily) forget my 30-hour labor


So far, I have never succeeded in writing an entry in one sitting. This post actually took me a whole week to complete, i.e. on 3 different days at 4 different intervals.


Saturday, March 13, 2010

3, 2, 1...



The many faces of Nuaym@4.5 weeks


Today is the 41st day of my pantang. This means there are 3 days left till 'merdeka', 'raya', or whatever term that is normally used. You might imagine me jumping up and down with joy, buat somersault even. Err... the truth is, not so much happy-happy-joy-joy-lah. Sounds pelik?

Ada ke orang yang tak berapa gumbira nak habis pantang?

I must admit that a part of me is glad that the 'waiting period' is almost over (kiter rinduuuu sangat Nescafe kiter tau!), but another part of me is afraid of the 'reality' that's about to come.

During my current confinement, my mom (yang kini sudah pencen) comes over to help out especially with the house chores, masak-memasak, laundry and ironing, plus the handling of the big kids. Dulu-dulu when Aidiin was a tiny baby, I only had Sofea to think about. She was only 3+ and was still in kindergarten. No homework to follow-up on, no monthly tests and exams to get stressed about, no workbooks to check and mistakes to be reviewed.

With Mama taking over most of my daily 'To Do(s)' during her stay (and a BIG BIG BIG help she has been), I only needed to worry about myself and Nuaym. Walaupun on some days (mostly weekends) she went back to her house, her presence just makes life for me and famyBoy easier.

Why? Because when Mama is around, there are 3 adults vs 3 children.

Without Mama, famyBoy and I will be outnumbered. *gulp*

I've been spending my pantang days mostly feeding and handling Nuaym, getting online to check blog and FB updates whenever I get the opportunity (which is quite rare), and making several attempts to read. So far I've only managed to finish Julie & Julia (funny-lah citer ni... I really want to watch the movie!), two magazines and my current reference What to Expect: The First Year (ongoing). Not much reading done this time around, unlike masa pantang with Aidiin. Err... I blame the idiot box for all the reading non-accomplishments. :P

Checking the calendar and the reminder in my organizer, I am now starting to worry worry about the life after this pantang period. THREE days left... very very fast tu. Isk isk.

Will I be able to resume the wife, the mom, the homemaker, the 'cikgu garang' roles... now with an almost 6 weeks old baby in the picture.

Will I be able to appear cool, calm, graceful and composed under pressure? Dah mula ketar lutut nih.

Will I be able to handle it all on my own???

Saya teramat takuuuuttt...

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Sleep Baby Sleep

Untuk Madame Zan and Madame Butterflutter, yang mintak gambar 'dagu mahal'... :)




Try to sleep now, close your eyes
Soon the birds would stop singing
Twinkling stars, are shining bright
They'll be watching you all night

All the things, you enjoy
On this beautiful day
All your friends, all your toys
Will be waiting for you to play

Mr Moonlight will come bring you dreams
As soon as the lights are out
And tomorrow you must tell me
What those dreams were all about

Try to sleep now, close your eyes
Try to think of tomorrow
All of us wish you good night
So I'm switching off the lights

One more hug, one more smile
Kiss you once, kiss you twice
I'll be here for a while
Try to sleep now and close your eyes

GOOD NIGHT!!


Sunday, February 07, 2010

The World Welcomes You

Announcing the arrival of...



Baby Nuaym was 3 days old when this picture was taken


The highest syukur to Allah SWT for His wonderful gift. Alhamdulillah.

Friday, January 15, 2010

2010 - A Year of Nurturing

What's a New Year without resolutions kan? Tak kisahlah new or old ones, janji every year ada goals that have been thought of and listed down and plans/targets to achieve them. Reinvented/recycled goals pun takpe maa...



My (still) empty 2010 organizer cum planner cum tempat conteng-conteng


I've been behind in listing down my own goals for this year, mainly because I was preoccupied with preparations for the baby and the new school year for Sofea and Aidiin. Ah well, better late than never, they say. Half month through Jan 2010 dah ni.

Anyways, lepas brainstorming and pikir punya pikir, striking out/highlighting/underlining/asterisk-ing (got such word meh?) sana-sini, these are the items on my I-Hope-To-Achieve-&-Improve-This-Year list, in no particular order:


I will not yell so much

Show love more, lose temper less

With a baby in the house nanti, this is probably the most important and at the same time most challenging goal to achieve. But then again, with a baby in the house, this might become the most achievable goal out of all goals for this year sebab semua orang terpaksa cakap pelan-pelan, takut bising nanti baby bangun. So nak tak nak kena control volume. The challenging part would be to cakap whisper-whisper time tengah meletup.

All these times I have to say that as much as I try to be patient, calm and composed when explaining or instructing or tegur-ing, more often than not, it does not work or help. I am ashamed to admit that I normally resorted to yelling in order to be heard over my kids squabbling, fighting, whining, crying, TV-watching etc in order to get their attention. It's not easy to automatically lower my tone afterwards in order for me to explain why their behavior is not acceptable and why I am angry. One more thing I noticed is that with all the yelling and screaming, I also ended up using threats to get them to cooperate. Not good kan? *sigh* Bad, bad mommy I am.

Is there anyone out there (parents with more than one child) that doesn't find his/herself in this yelling situation at least once a day? I fail miserably in this area. *hangs head in shame* Bukan berniat untuk mengaibkan anybody (especially a very loved one), but I know I speak for famyBoy too in this case. Suara dia lagi kuat... :P

Although I usually end up getting the kids to obey and do what they were supposed to do or stop doing what they were not supposed to do, I can't help feeling guilty and wonder if I am just making things worse with my yelling, regardless if the situation had warranted it or not. I don't know if I am damaging my children psychologically in the long run, although they seemed to be their usual happy, cheery, inquisitive selves afterwards, forgive and forget terus. Overall I know they are wonderful kids and I love them to bits, and I realize that they are just being who they are... yakni KIDS, but sometimes their disobedience, negligence, ignorings drive me (and famyBoy) nuts.

I pray that Allah will grant me patience in dealing with them and guide me towards becoming a better mother if not (yet) an ideal one. I want to be the nurturing, compassionate and affectionate Ibu who they will turn to in times of need and I want them to respect me out of love (and to please Allah), not out of fear of nanti kena marah/bebel/denda or have their priviledges taken away.

How to make the kids understand that ya? If you all have any tips in this area please do share. I highly welcome your suggestions.


Find more quality family time

A family that prays together, stays together

This goal requires some amount of brainstorming and planning (and budgeting too if applicable). Lagipun nak kena make sure famyBoy is available, tak kena gi outstation and whatnot. I need to make sure that as a family, we do more things together, enjoy time spent together, ensure each child is given the opportunity to feel special and loved as a member of the famyFamily.

Ni kira nak kill two (or more birds) with one stone-lah. First of all, boleh buat combo goals 'listen to each child's needs and desires' and 'make each child feel good about his/her self'. Indirectly, the time spent together as a family would result in less (non-educational) TV-watching and mengadap-computer-all-the-time times, give the kids the attention they need, and hopefully we get to have fun as a family in general. Kalau boleh, akan cuba diselitkan jua activities yang boleh give each child the individual time he/she deserves. Sekaligus dapat improve parent-child relationship. Haaa... dah berapa ekor birds dah kena 'bunuh' dah ni.

Hmmm... nampak gaya Ibu kena banyaaaaaak pikir lagi pasal benda ni. At the moment otak dah penat and tepu. Perhaps I'll post a separate entry on this when I have more insight. Can you help get me started? Any ideas? Somehow I think madame butterfly who's always busy like a bee is an expert in this area, especially on the planning part. *wink*


Improvement dari segi agama/ilmiah/rohaniah

Al-Ummu Al-Madrasah

Hmm... this could be an extension of goal #2. Tambah lagi sekor burung to kill. :P

Like I mentioned before, the goals are not listed in any particular order. This goal should actually be a priority.

For the past 2 years, Sofea has been independently reciting the Quran after solat Maghrib each day (tapi ada jugak hari yang dia ter-skipped), usually about 2 pages a day. Kalau dia rajin, dia baca 3 pages. Occasionally, her Ayah sits and listens to her to check on her recitations and tajweed. I must admit that my knowledge dalam bab-bab ni agak limited. So I trust famyBoy fully on this.

One good thing is at her KAFA, she gets to mengaji everyday with her 18 classmates, with an Ustaz listening to each student's recitation as they take turns to mengaji about half a page each. She also learns tajweed, and her knowledge of the various hukums ("nun bertemu this and this", "berapa harakah bacaan" etc etc etc) memang surpasses my limited knowledge. Sometimes dia ada juga tanya certain things for clarification, tapi Ibu tak dapat jawab and told her to check with her Ustaz the next day. *blush* I really have to improve myself in this area. Very the embarrasing-lah camni.

Anyways, the goal is not so much on Sofea in terms of mengaji, but more on Aidiin. I need to find/make time to sit with him and listen to him recite the surahs he learnt at school and help him correct his bacaans where needed. At the moment, dia tengah belajar surah Al-A'diyat. Alhamdulillah, the surahs he has read and learnt before this he has memorised and still remembers them (Eh, ye ke still remember? Nak kena test dia one of these days to make sure).

Ideally, I'd love to be able to sit down with the kids and do short tazkirah sessions at least once a week. Teach them about the Deen or discuss about the stuff they learnt at school - tawheed, fiqh, akhlak, sirah, Islam in general. Talk about the surahs they have read and the tafseer behind the translations. Think about examples on how to integrate Islam as much as possible into their lives and daily activities. Remind them frequently to fear Allah and follow His Messenger. Make sure their niyat to do things a certain way is because they want to (to please Allah), not because they have to. Remind them that Islam should be their way of life in totality.

For this to happen, I would have to sendiri improve first and increase my knowledge in the subject matter(s). With a baby on the way, I foresee this goal as a HUGE challenge (with many obstacles and distractions), but I don't want to use that as an excuse. Err tapi masa takde baby pun tak mampu nak execute diligently... tsk tsk tsk.

I pray that Allah will guide me in this and help me find effective ways to educate them to become successful muslim and muslimahs both in this world and the hereafter.


Lifestyle improvements in general

a. Financially
Spend less, save more. Yadda yadda yadda. Reduce significantly unnecessary credit card expenses. Pay off yang mana mampu, sebanyak yang mampu. Splurging allowed sekali-sekala only, with valid reasons (like mengidam sebelum beranak hee hee hee) and only on 'pre-approved' items.
Note: This goal is intended more for famyBoy and his 'midlife crisis'. :P

b. Health
- Cook healthier meals for the family. Serve more home-cooked meals, less tapau-ed meals. I'd have to korek my collection of buku recipes and plan better. Dah lama berhajat nak buat menu plan for each week so that I'd be more at ease, instead of frantically garu-ing kepala at 4pm each day, "Aiyaaa... what to cook today? What to cook today??"
Sok ada baby lagi perlu be organized in this area. Am seriously considering getting them fridge magnets from OO. *wink*

- Go to bed at a more reasonable time and wake up early. This one also ditujukan khas buat famyBoy terchenta, The Burung Hantu. Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise. Masa tadika pun dah diberitahu pasal ni.
I need to make sure the kids go to bed on time, i.e. latest 10pm each night on a school night. Weekends boleh lenient sikitlah. I myself need to make sure I am well-rested and not sleep deprived. Errr tapi bila ada baby that's probably not possible anymore. :P

- Exercise more (HAHAHA gelak besau guling-guling). Tapi kalau nak kurus cepat lepas beranak, kenalah disiplin sikit, no? We'll see... *gigit kuku*

c. Manage time better
- A recycled goal over the years. Cadangnya nak allocate dedicated time slots untuk baking experiments, readings, scrapbooking, learning and experimenting with the dSLR, gardening, blogging & blog-hopping, FB-ing dan macam-macam lagi ada. This goal shall be exempted from next year's review, sebab it should be an ongoing-continuous improvement thingy. Seelok-eloknya kena buat daily appraisal.





When listing down the above goals, I tried to recall zaman kerja when I had to list down SMART goals each year before the next appraisal cycle. Rasa-rasanya the goals above are:

- Specific?
Yes? No? *scrolls up* I think they are somewhat. Not down to the itty-bitty-gritty details but I think okaylah.

- Measurable?
Bolehlah... I think if I managed to reduce my yelling moments and 'bad mommy' moments overall, I have already accomplished something measurable.

- Achievable?
Errr... insyaAllah. Semoga Allah permudahkan segala urusanku.

- Realistic?
The goals above come into place because I want to better myself, in hopes to become a better wife for my husband and a better Ibu for my kids. Is that realistic enough?

- Timebound?
Hmmmm... ni tricky sikit. Susahlah nak letak deliverables and deadlines. Dengan izin Allah, if umur panjang, I get to revisit them, review my performances next year, and measure KPIs achieved.


Berkobar-kobar dah ni. hee hee hee. Agak-agak boleh dapat Anugerah Homemaker Cemerlang tahun ni tak? Wish me luck. :)


p/s: Sorry for making y'all read such a long entry. Tapi saya tengah ada 'mood' nak memblog semenjak dua-menjak ni...

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

And the countdown begins...

My first post in 2010... I initially thought that I won't be checking nor updating until the baby is born, but disebabkan saya memiliki itchy fingers, maka tertulislah update kecil ini. :)

Forget about the ticker in the previous entry. My latest checkup showed that the baby might be due earlier than originally expected. In fact, doctor kata, tak sampai end of the month pun baby boleh keluar if baby dah ready nak keluar. So, at the moment we're playing the guessing game everyday... Is today D-day?? Is it? Is it? Is it??

During the latest visit to the obgyn, I was informed that the baby's head has already dropped into the pelvis, although not fully engaged yet. Doctor juga bilang, sometimes with the 3rd or later babies, the baby's head might not be fully engaged at all. Tau-tau mak dia dah in labour and the baby terus keluar je. Waaaa like that one aaa??

So, in preparation for the 'unknown', I have finally gotten my 'hospital bag' packed and ready to go. *nervous*

Wahai pembaca-pembaca setia blog ini (you know who you are and I love y'all... *muahhhss*), silent readers and/or otherwise, please pray that I have a safe and smooth delivery ya? Doakan juga agar baby is sempurna sifat, healthy, cantik paras rupa. Semoga dia menjadi anak yang soleh, taat dan patuh pada perintah Allah, dan membesar menjadi insan yang diredhai Allah. Kalau boleh, I don't want to be in labour lama-lama like the previous two times, yakni 24 hours with Sofea and 30 hours(!!!) with Aidiin. Trauma oooo...

At that time Zakariya (Zachariya) invoked his Lord, saying: "O my Lord! Grant me from You, a good offspring. You are indeed the All-Hearer of invocation." (Ali 'Imran: 38)

"Our Lord! And make us submissive unto You and of our offspring a nation submissive unto You, and show us our Manasik (all the ceremonies of pilgrimage - Hajj and 'Umrah, etc.), and accept our repentance. Truly, You are the One Who accepts repentance, the Most Merciful." (Al-Baqarah: 128)

And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqun." (Al-Furqan: 74)

"O my Lord! Make me one who performs As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and (also) from my offspring, our Lord! And accept my invocation." (Ibrahim: 40)

(They say): "Our Lord! Let not our hearts deviate (from the truth) after You have guided us, and grant us mercy from You. Truly, You are the Bestower.
Our Lord! Verily, it is You Who will gather mankind together on the Day about which there is no doubt. Verily, Allah never breaks His Promise."
(Ali 'Imran: 8-9)

"Our Lord! Verily, whom You admit to the Fire, indeed, You have disgraced him, and never will the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers) find any helpers.
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one (Muhammad s.a.w.) calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed. Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and remit from us our evil deeds, and make us die in the state of righteousness along with Al-Abrar (those who are obedient to Allah and follow strictly His Orders).
Our Lord! Grant us what You promised unto us through Your Messengers and disgrace us not on the Day of Resurrection, for You never break (Your) Promise."
(Ali 'Imran: 192-194)


May Allah SWT make it easy for me...
 

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